I have had some success with the lucid dreaming. While i was in Texas and sleeping next to Bethany i found a great ease and clarity in my dreams if i slept with my head touching hers. I have found that often in my life when i have been in a relationship, touching heads together with a woman has solicited vivid and powerful dream control. I read about that in Carlos Castaneda actually. Carlos and La Gorda were sitting on a bench in the book, "the Eagle's Gift" and placed their heads into contact and they were both able to see in the Castaneda sense.
Since i have been home it has not been as vivid but last night i had a lucid dream. I was walking down my home street to go and confront an old friend that i have had much conflict with in the past couple of years and i was walking naked. I was excited to get to his driveway because i would be able to put my underwear on. When i arrived at the driveway, after donning my underpants i wrote a long letter to him on the back white wall of his house. I looked at it and noticed that i could not read it. Between the jumbled words and the fact that i realized it was silly to carry my underwear down the street and not wear them, i realized i was dreaming. I was going to change the scene around but then remembered reading that you can use lucid dreams as rehearsals for difficult conversations you will have in life. I proceeded to have a very productive conversation about what had happened with us and it was a very helpful dream.
I realized in this dream that lucidity can come in different levels. I have had dreams where i was in total control. In this dream i was aware of being asleep, but still subject to the dream world. I also kept slipping in and out of various levels of lucidity.
I do feel that i am gaining more potential to dream lucidly. I am starting to train myself to question whether i am dreaming more and when i do i look for my hands right away. That is increasing the frequency with which i question my consciousness in dreams.
Keep me posted on your dream progress as well.